If anyone happens to pay any attention to the entertainment news (and I use that term loosely), you've probably heard by now that Pam Anderson and Kid Rock have split up after a whopping four months of marriage. Ah yes...four months. But hey, they gave it a real go, right?
Insert eye roll here.
You know, these people were together long enough before the marriage to know who each other were. There shouldn't have been any serious surprises after the ceremony. Which begs the question - why did they bother getting married in the first place? And why, after they were married, did the individual and their behavior become unacceptable then when it obviously wasn't before?
Disposable marriages. That's what I call them. Hollywood seems awfully fond of them. I think they're in love with the myth. I think they like the hype and attention. But when the deed is done and reality sinks in, it doesn't fit the picture, so they toss it out without even an effort. Like disposable contacts that you replace after the 30 day expiry date.
And it makes me wonder. Most of these Hollywood people started off with normal lives. They lived in towns and cities like the rest of us, went to school, had families, parents, siblings, maybe a part-time job and the local fast food joint. Whatever. Normal life. So at what point did the knowledge of normal get so skewered? What was it that made their perception of love and marriage turn into this warped version of musical relationships where if they didn't like the one they were in after a short period of time, they could just wait until the music stopped and grab the closest one to them to replace it?
What makes them think that happily ever after just happens without any effort on their part?
And why do I care?
Probably because being a romance writer it angers the bejesus out of me to see people treat the state of love and marriage with such a flippant attitude that it demeans the whole thing. Love and marriage should never be a disposable quantity. There isn't enough of it to go around for it to be squandered in such a cavalier manner.